A note at the end

I love the work I do with mothers and babies, I do! Moms are unappreciated and do far more than we ever give them credit for. It is my pleasure to help overwhelmed moms to enjoy their lives again.

But there is one moment which I find especially hard and nothing changes inside of me– it is always hard and I get way too emotional. It is the time of the last session when I have to say to all of them that the program have reached the end, that it’s time for them to go and live their life using all we have learned, to trust their mother’s hearts and keep the friendship alive. Yes, it happened again, another group of women (it is the tenths one in my work in Blenheim!) finished the "Postpartum Rallying"- a 12 week program that supports group mothers in their postpartum journey.

Every group is absolutely unique and every journey is unrepeatable. Every group enriches my life and touches my heart watch. Every group has its dynamics and different results. But every time we all exercise the capacity to watch and learn, suspend any judgement and the impulse to intervene; to meet people as people, as subjects of their own sovereign lives, not as objects; to understand the cruel reality of motherhood and… to support each other.

This time I feel a strong desire to say thank you to each women for breaking the silence and the ring of shame and to speak openly about their experience. It never happened before and it’s a beginning of a different approach and it gives hope to help more women. Thank you, Dear Ones for speaking loud on behalf of all postpartum women.

Please listen to their testimonials>>> https://www.pndmarlborough.com/testimonials

Yes, this group is over, but the new ones starts soon and you can enroll. Find more about the support group for mothers here >>> https://www.pndmarlborough.com/postnatal-depression-support

Author: Tatiana Ceban, specializes in reproductive and perinatal mental health. She is committed to providing psychological support for woman and their families experiencing challenges with conception, pregnancy, delivery, postpartum anxiety and depression, parenting stress and worry, perinatal loss and grief, etc. Tatiana assists people navigating through infertility and assisted reproductive technologies (ART). Currently her private practice Parenthood4D Counselling (www.parenthood4D.com) is based in Blenheim, Marlborough.

Find more about her practice at www.parenthood4d.com and connect on Instagram at @tatceban

PND Marlborough Charitable Trust

PND Marlborough Charitable Trust, established in 2005, is a life line in the community for many women and families who are struggling with postnatal depression, motherhood and parenting issues. Having a baby is both an exciting and challenging time. Adding anxiety or depression can make it difficult to function and feel like you are a good enough parent. Both women and men can experience perinatal (during pregnancy and the year after birth) mental health issuesand these can vary in intensity and symptoms. As a mum

or dad it is easy to feel guilt and shame that can get in the way of seeking the help you need. If this is how you feel, know that you are not alone. Having perinatal anxiety or depression does not make you a ‘bad parent’. In fact, seeking help early leads to a faster recovery with less impact on you, your relationship with your baby, partner and family.


“ It was a great progress in my perception what motherhood is. After attending therapeutic support group for mothers and completing the program, I understood that actually I left there some very significant things: negative thoughts and self-assumptions; unproductive thoughts and how to deal with hard situations; my “flight mode” way of dealing with things; catastrophic visualisation; guilt about not being enough for my kids& husband; fears about being “less” than I want to be;  the need to be “achieving” something. And I took some important things with me: bond with my son; skills and knowledge to deal with low moods; ability to catch “bad” thoughts and feelings before they grow; calmness; peace of mind; a little bit of myself again and the ability to prioritize myself and my needs.” Victoria


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