I am a new mother. This means that my mental health is at risk. You can help me by:
Occasionally addressing me by my real name, thereby reminding me that I am not only “Mom” or ”Darling”.
Praising me for my efforts with the children. Also telling me lots of ways that it is OK to be fed up from time to time.
Giving me a break from my children every so often by babysitting, and/ or mentioning frequently how essential such breaks are.
Reminding me that I am a sexually alive human being by commenting on my body.
Reminding me that I have a mind.
Reminding me that sleep is essential.
Reminding me that I am a unique human being and praising my skills whether they involve fixing a leaking roof, keeping a well-organized household, growing a mean Super Tom, lecturing English 101 or crocheting elegant place mats.
Mentioning the female stereotype which assumes that all women adore wiping bottoms and cleaning toilets 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Laugh loudly and with feeling.
Supporting the way in which I have organized child care, whether it be shared, professional or part-time or full-time motherhood. Remember that I am an individual and that I know the best how to meet my needs and the needs of my family.
Jenny Phillips, "Mothers Matter Too".