New mother’s message to friends

I am a new mother. This means that my mental health is at risk. You can help me by:

  • Occasionally addressing me by my real name, thereby reminding me that I am not only “Mom” or ”Darling”.

  • Praising me for my efforts with the children. Also telling me lots of ways that it is OK to be fed up from time to time.

  • Giving me a break from my children every so often by babysitting, and/ or mentioning frequently how essential such breaks are.

  • Reminding me that I am a sexually alive human being by commenting on my body.

  • Reminding me that I have a mind.

  • Reminding me that sleep is essential.

  • Reminding me that I am a unique human being and praising my skills whether they involve fixing a leaking roof, keeping a well-organized household, growing a mean Super Tom, lecturing English 101 or crocheting elegant place mats.

  • Mentioning the female stereotype which assumes that all women adore wiping bottoms and cleaning toilets 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Laugh loudly and with feeling.

  • Supporting the way in which I have organized child care, whether it be shared, professional or part-time or full-time motherhood. Remember that I am an individual and that I know the best how to meet my needs and the needs of my family.

Jenny Phillips, "Mothers Matter Too".



PND Marlborough Charitable Trust

PND Marlborough Charitable Trust, established in 2005, is a life line in the community for many women and families who are struggling with postnatal depression, motherhood and parenting issues. Having a baby is both an exciting and challenging time. Adding anxiety or depression can make it difficult to function and feel like you are a good enough parent. Both women and men can experience perinatal (during pregnancy and the year after birth) mental health issuesand these can vary in intensity and symptoms. As a mum

or dad it is easy to feel guilt and shame that can get in the way of seeking the help you need. If this is how you feel, know that you are not alone. Having perinatal anxiety or depression does not make you a ‘bad parent’. In fact, seeking help early leads to a faster recovery with less impact on you, your relationship with your baby, partner and family.


“ It was a great progress in my perception what motherhood is. After attending therapeutic support group for mothers and completing the program, I understood that actually I left there some very significant things: negative thoughts and self-assumptions; unproductive thoughts and how to deal with hard situations; my “flight mode” way of dealing with things; catastrophic visualisation; guilt about not being enough for my kids& husband; fears about being “less” than I want to be;  the need to be “achieving” something. And I took some important things with me: bond with my son; skills and knowledge to deal with low moods; ability to catch “bad” thoughts and feelings before they grow; calmness; peace of mind; a little bit of myself again and the ability to prioritize myself and my needs.” Victoria


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