March 7, 2019

I love the work I do with mothers and babies, I do! Moms are unappreciated and do far more than we ever give them credit for. It is my pleasure to help overwhelmed moms to enjoy their lives again.

But there is one moment which I find especially hard and nothing changes inside of me– it is always hard and I get way too emotional. It is the time of the last session  when I have to say to all of them that the program have reached the end, that it’s time for them to go and live their life using all we have learned, to trust their mo...

November 17, 2018

On Saturday, November 17th 2018 lots of people in Blenheim attended Hope Walk. Hope Walk is a movement of hope, bringing awareness to suicide. Amazing idea, great initiative and beautiful community support. There are a significant number of people in our community who lost a loved one – family member or a friend. And there are still people who might be at risk, having suicidal thoughts or even attempts.

I was thinking all day of mothers in isolation, having babies and being overwhelmed. Those who struggle to get through debilita...

September 15, 2018

She came only five weeks before birthing the baby.  It was her second pregnancy and despite of pretty comfortable life situation, she was emotional and overwhelmed.  I listened to the story of almost every expectant mother – a story full of joy, hope, fear, despair, anxiety, pitfalls, and triumphs.  No much time left for me as a counsellor to help this beautiful woman to move beyond the self-doubt and the blame she has had while questioning the roller-coaster of emotions felt during the last stage of pregnancy. We both needed t...

February 13, 2018

One of my favorite topics is how to help mothers to overcome their resistance to join a support group. I have met in my practice so many women who miss a great opportunity to become healthy and to find support just because… they are afraid “to be part of any group”. Many of them will not give it a chance, choosing rather to struggle in isolation. This is really sad!

Group work: 1. work done by a group of people in collaboration; 2.education, training, or therapy given in a group.

Parenting is not a natural skill, it's a social pr...

July 27, 2017

You’re most likely to be besotted and enamored with your little cherub. You’ll be focused purely on the survival of your offspring; everything else ceases to exist. This is exactly where the problem lies: you start disappearing. Don’t get me wrong. You may find this new you utterly fulfilling, but you’re sure to come across moments of frustration and identity crisis – especially being a later mother used to your independence (what do you mean, no more spontaneous coffee breaks?).

It’s hard putting someone else’s needs first (ev...

July 7, 2017

I am a new mother. This means that my mental health is at risk. You can help me by:

  • Occasionally addressing me by my real name, thereby reminding me that I am not only “Mom” or  ”Darling”.

  • Praising me for my efforts with the children. Also telling me lots of ways that it is OK to be fed up from time to time.

  • Giving me a break from my children every so often by babysitting, and/ or mentioning frequently how essential such breaks are.

  • Reminding me that I am a sexually alive human being by commenting on my body.

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July 1, 2017

I know it sounds backwards… but few things help one feel less isolated than being told you are “strong” when you are suffering with postnatal depression. I don’t feel strong. I don’t want to feel strong. I want to feel happy. I want to feel better. Telling me I am strong reminds me of how much weight I’ve had to lift emotionally throughout my life, and right now nothing about my past matters.

I am only here now; feeling alone, scared, weak, embarrassed, ashamed, inadequate, angry.

Telling me I am strong lends a sort of dismissal...

June 30, 2016

On Wednesday, June 29th the therapeutic support group for mothers has had the last meeting. A 12 weeks journey together to a Stronger Self, to a more Happy Experience of Motherhood, to a Better Connection with your Baby. It was a great time with great outcomes. Here is the feedback from participants:

What is Motherhood?

-Learning experience – building from every opportunity, improving my decision making, learning what’s best for me, learning to enjoy every moment;

- Journey – learning curve, hard, fun, exciting, challenging;

- Moth...

May 27, 2016

On June 12th 2016 Marlborough Parents Centre opens Parent and Child Expo 2016 - Blenheim Stadium 2000,  Kinross Street.

Come along for a family fun day out. With over 40 exhibitors there is bound to be something for everyone. There will be fun giveaways and prizes including: goodie bags for the first 350 adults through the door, silent auction, raffles and spot prizes.



There will be entertainment for the whole family including:harold the giraffe, face painting, The Fusion Clown Company, bouncy castles, Bunnings DIY kids area. P...

April 1, 2016

Here in Blenheim, Marlborough we have a very popular place - The Blue Door Shop. That is a great service for our community, good place to find a bargain and to meet nice people. The Blue Door supports many local initiatives and non for profit organizations.

 

Postnatal Depression Marlborough Charitable Trust is one of those who received recently a donation of $1000. From all our volunteers and the clients we serve - a big thank you, The Blue Door!

This money will be used for our therapeutic group  that offers psychological support...

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PND Marlborough Charitable Trust, established in 2005, is a life line in the community for many women and families who are struggling with postnatal depression, motherhood and parenting issues. Having a baby is both an exciting and challenging time. Adding anxiety or depression can make it difficult to function and feel like you are a good enough parent. Both women and men can experience perinatal (during pregnancy and the year after birth) mental health issuesand these can vary in intensity and symptoms. As a mum

or dad it is easy to feel guilt and shame that can get in the way of seeking the help you need. If this is how you feel, know that you are not alone. Having perinatal anxiety or depression does not make you a ‘bad parent’. In fact, seeking help early leads to a faster recovery with less impact on you, your relationship with your baby, partner and family.

“ It was a great progress in my perception what motherhood is. After attending therapeutic support group for mothers and completing the program, I understood that actually I left there some very significant things: negative thoughts and self-assumptions; unproductive thoughts and how to deal with hard situations; my “flight mode” way of dealing with things; catastrophic visualisation; guilt about not being enough for my kids& husband; fears about being “less” than I want to be;  the need to be “achieving” something. And I took some important things with me: bond with my son; skills and knowledge to deal with low moods; ability to catch “bad” thoughts and feelings before they grow; calmness; peace of mind; a little bit of myself again and the ability to prioritize myself and my needs.” Victoria

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